I’m worried my wife’s friend will tell

A woman I had an affair with years ago has got back in touch and I’m scared our affair will come to light. I feel so ashamed when I think about it.

At the time it happened, my wife was very ill and depressed and her sex drive was non-existent. But although I was frustrated, I never thought about looking elsewhere until this woman came to me.

She’s my wife’s friend and because her marriage was in trouble she’d flirt with any man she met. I thought it was a bit of fun, until one
night when I met her at a birthday party for a colleague. My wife couldn’t face going out, but this woman was there and when she saw I
was on my own, she made a play for me.

lt was obvious she was drunk and started talking about sex, and how she wasn’t getting it. She was all over me and when I tried to fend
her off, she said we were only having fun and I needed to loosen up.

I thought maybe I was being a bit uptight, so when she suggested I take her home, I agreed. I should have backed off when she started pressing her body against mine in the car, but by then I as so overcome with lust that I didn’t say no when she asked me in and we had sex as soon as we were near the sofa. It was quick and it satisfied a need, nothing more.

We met a few moire times for sex and I was relieved when she and her husband finally split up and she relocated abroad. That was 10 years ago.

A few weeks ago, my wife had an e-mail from her. She said she’s remarried and was moving back to Lagos and would visit as soon as she
arrived.

I felt sick with worry when I heard that my wife is a lot better now but if she found out I’d been banging her friend when she was ill, she
could have a relapse. I tried to persuade her to ignore the e-mail, but she said she was eager to see her friend again after all these
years.

I’m afraid this woman will say something. I’m wondering if I should contact her and ask her to keep quiet. Jonpo, by e-mall