1) Don't take your friends along when he
invites you on a date:
Some Nigerian Ladies for some reason that is
beyond me, take their friends on a date with a
guy they just met. No positive outcome can
come out of this but some of the negatives
are:
(i) The guy will be turned off
(ii) He may start liking or prefer one for your
friends to you
(iii) He will never get the opportunity to know
you as much as he wants because of the 3rd
wheel
(iv) He may think you don't have a mind of
your own
(v) He may turn you and your friends back
(2) Don't go to his house unannounced:
One thing a man hates the most is for you to
show up at his house unannounced or invited
especially when he just met you. That's a "NO
NO" because he'll just think you're a stalker or
a psycho and he'll act out.. Some ladies out
of emotions and lack of trust show up at a
guys house, what they don't know is they are
pushing him away or giving him reasons to
leave.
(3) Don't ask him for Money:
Some Ladies meet a guy and in less than 2/3
weeks the demands start rolling in. Pleas pay
for my hair, buy me birkin bag for my birthday,
my rent is due, or plain & simply, I need 500k
or 1 million.
Every guy would take off when they meet a
Lady like this. They would say she's
opportunistic and compare her to the ladies
who are not asking them for a kobo or dime.
(4) Don't compare him to your ex or talk
about your ex,
Only if he requests: Some Ladies compare and
contrast their new guy to their old one, not
only in their mind but to his face as well.
They say things like my Ladi used to take me
to KFC you're taking me to Mr Biggs, Jide
bought me Prada for my birthday last year
you're buying me Zara..
Guys hate being compared, it punctures their
Ego so allow him be the Boss and take you
out, don't compare or dictate terms of dates
or gifts.
(5) Don't be to quick to upload his pictures on
(Social Media) :
Ladies, you just met a guy, a new flame, the
relationship is at its early stages, there's still
so much you don't know about him why
upload his pictures for the world to see? The
relationship may not even be defined yet.. By
doing this, you're giving people room to
influence and alter your infant relationship.
Also you don't want to be like those people
who have to cleanse their social media photos
of a guy's picture every 6 months because of
a breakup.
(6) Don't wear see through or exposing outfits
on your first date:
Guys are very Impulsive and instinctive by
nature, by wearing a dress or gown that's
says "SEX" that's all that will be on his mind
and nothing else. He won't want to hear
anything about you anymore; your personality,
your job, your family etc. All he'll be thinking
about is how he'll take you to his house or
hotel room because you've sent him a signal
saying you want sex.
(7) Don't bore him with your Family issues:
Some ladies carry their personal or family
problems out with them on dates, instead of
making waves and progress with their new
guy, they talk about how their house got burnt
last week, or how their friend always borrows
money or clothes from them, or how they hate
their sisters or brothers.. All these are TMI
(Too Much Information) Focus on him and let
him Focus on you.. Don't allow extraneous
variables creep in and take over your
conversation.
( Don't talk about marriage or the future:
The number one thing guys are scared of
after God is Commitment or Marriage so if you
just met a guy and you're already talking
about marriage or children he is definitely
going to take off and say you're putting him
under pressure and he can't keep up.. Let him
be the one to bring it up not you because he'll
say you're desperate.
(9) Don't pry about his pocket, earnings or the
car he drives:
A friend of mine went on a Blind Date at
Radisson (Lagos) to meet a Lady who his
cousin had introduced him to through
Instagram. He complained he had not even
ordered a drink when his date asked him:
What car do you drive? That was her first
question.. "What do you drive?"
Most guys would be offended by this and even
have a negative impression about you
immediately, because a guy would wonder do
u like me or my car?
(10) Don't get drunk on your first outing with
him:
Firstly Ladies, this is for your own safety a lot
of ladies have been taken advantage of
because they were intoxicated.
You also don't want to embarrass yourself and
say or do things that you can't defend or
verify.
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