The stress some women go through in marriage
is sad and, sadly, they pass through such
because of other ladies who are interested in
their husbands. Below is the story a married
woman sent to Bunmi:
My husband took a second wife without my
knowledge.
We’ve been married for seven years and
still remain childless due to his own fault
(doctor’s report). I heard from the
grapevine that he took a second wife over
a year ago. The irony of it all is that he
claimed to be single, so the other woman
doesn’t know of my existence. What do I
do? Does he still deserve my love? At
times, I feel like running away. I hurt and
stay awake every night he stays away. I
am dying in silence.
- from Bola
Here's Bunmi's advise to Bola:
Have you really confirmed that your
husband has a second wife by asking
him?
It’s amazing the unnecessary pain we put
ourselves through because of lack of
dialogue. Men could be as emotionally
strung as women. The fact that your
husband can’t give you a child must be
devastating to him and some men in his
shoes have happily accepted other men’s
pregnancies to save face.
You obviously still love your husband and
you need to seek urgent medical solutions
to your childless state. Lastly, you too
have to decide if you love your husband
enough to stay married to him without the
prospect of a child. The longer you leave
these soul-searching questions without
seeking answers, the more frustrated you’ll
become.
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